Most men get stuck pushing attraction into action.  If you use the techniques and theories below, you should never have that problem again.  Even resistance can be used to your advantage in the long run.

Have Trust and Attraction First

You’ve established rapport and trust with your girl.  Good.

You’ve isolated her and you’re in a private place where you don’t have friend’s eyes or drunk interruptions to worry about.  Very good.

You want to kick things up a notch.  You want some nookie.

We’ve gone over a few methods, but it’s time to get some more.  Time for some POWERFUL tools.  You ready?

The Smell to Sex Accelerator

First, I’ve got for you the smell to sex accelerator.  How’s this one work?  Simple.  Smell her shoulders.

Again, the lady needs to be comfortable.  You need to be close to the kiss, but just looking for that extra nudge to get things rolling.  Rare is the lady who’ll take charge, and lots of guys freeze up here, fearing an attempted kiss too early will kill their chances (not that that’s necessarily true, but it’s certainly the prevailing belief).

So to ease over that edge, get up or lean over and smell her shoulders.  Not like a bloodhound.  Not like you’ve got a  cold.  Just breath deep – silently but strongly – and take in her scent.  Do it a few minutes.

After that, start smelling a little further up – around her neck, then her ears.  Chances are good the girl will be going wild by now.  She’ll be trying to stay cool but getting REALLY hot and bothered.  She might grab you for a kiss.

If she hasn’t put the iron man hold on the back of your neck, then lean in to that kiss – maybe brush your lips – but then pull away with a smile and smell her just a little bit more.

She’ll go crazy.

Where’s this from?

Why does this work anyway?  I mean, SMELLING a girl, that sounds kind of… what, fetish like.

Nah.  Truth is, you’d like it too.  For one thing, it’s part of the mating dance in our section of the animal kingdom.  Back when it meant something, a male would smell to see if the woman was in heat.  He’d inspect with his nose – make sure she didn’t have any infections or injuries.

It all led to sex.

We don’t do that anymore, but the programming remains in us, closer to the surface than you think.

Another thing which gets women excited when you do this is the feel of your warm breath on her skin.  Think about it, that’s a pretty stimulating thing.  It’ll get a rise out of anyone.

Ever notice how, if you’re ticklish, those sensitive regions become highly erogenous during sex?  How you don’t laugh anymore, but you just get hot?  This is very similar.

If you’re uncomfortable or scared, their breath on your neck will freak you out (hell, just a breeze on the neck can do it).  But if you feel safe and you’re with someone you trust, it’s just a great great feeling.  And a damn sexy one.

If she starts to moan, don’t be shocked.

From Questions to Kisses

Now earlier we talked about the “Would you like to kiss me now?” question, and that can work both with or without smelling.  (If you need a reminder: if she says anything but “no” you kiss her.  If you get a “no” respond with “I didn’t say you could – you just looked like you had something on your mind.)

Here’s another one that works well.  While being nice and intimate – personally, I like to get a girl sitting on my lap as soon as possible, stroking her inner thighs – you can ask her what kind of man she likes.  A take-charge guy, a sensitive guy, what’s she really go for?

Then, after a DELAY (and this is crucial, or you’ll come off as a kiss-ass) act accordingly.  So if she likes the take-charge guy, you simply take her cheek, aim her lips, and powerfully kiss them.

Once the mood is set, if she likes the leading type, you HAVE TO take control.  She won’t respect you otherwise – and she certainly won’t sleep with you.

On the other hand, if she likes the sensitive type, you can then ask more questions about that.  What is it she likes about that?  Have her walk you through an incredible sensual experience that left a mark.

This is good, because you’re actually guiding her to feel the same emotions again, in an echo affect.  Only this time, she feels them while YOU are the one touching her.

After she’s finished, you say something like “Let’s see if we can beat that.” and then give her a soulful kiss.

Recovering from a premature kiss attempt

Now, if you try one of the three methods I’ve described and it doesn’t work, you need to take your time before you make another attempt.  You don’t want to come off as a sleaze who only wants in her pants.

You’ll need to rebuild the vibe, amp up her attraction again.  Make sure you bring her further along the next time, and then, when you’re sure the kiss is right… tease her a little more.  Brush the lips.  If you’ve kissed once but she resisted BUT she’s still interested in chilling with you, that means she DOES want to kiss.  It was just too early.  But if you’ve given her the pretty obvious signal that you’re open to it, she’s MORE likely to make a move herself, if you’ve brought her attraction to unbearable levels.

In fact, if she resists a little but not in a negative way, lean back and enjoy the game.  Because she’ll be worried that she just screwed up, and you can dial up the tension using that knowledge.

Dealing with Awkwardness

Of course, sometimes you go for the kiss, get resistance, and everything gets awkward.  Or it can simply be an awkward pause in regular conversation.  You get stuck.

There’s an easy way out of that.  Say something like “You know, I’ve noticed something about you, and I bet it’s something know one else has ever told you – if they’ve even seen it.”

This will pique her curiosity and she’ll bug you to tell her.  Don’t.  Immediately move on to another subject, and whenever she brings it up, tease her for being so nosy or pushy (remember to stay playful though).

Eventually you can tell her… or you can string her along for another night.  You can say you don’t know her well enough yet.  You can say you don’t think she can handle it.  Have fun here.  The main thing is, it gives you a playful topic for the rest of the night, or beyond.

Someday, of course, you should tell her.  It doesn’t have to be extremely profound – but that helps.  If you don’t have anything real you’ve noticed, you can use blanket statements that are true of most people, but that few talk about.  Like “You put on a brave face, but I bet when you let your guard down you are a much sweeter and sometimes lonely person.”  This sort of thing works wonders.

With all of this info, moving to the physical shouldn’t be a problem for you ever again.

Derek Vitalio

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We men might not be interested in the stars or fortune telling, but most women are.  And that can be used to create very playful and fun conversations, to sustain positive touch, and to influence how your date will act with you.  The esoteric is a powerful friend.

What Are Women Interested In?

Think about this a moment: what is one area of knowledge that most women are interested in?  Hint: most men think it’s stupid.  Tick-tock-tick-tock… time’s up.

The esoteric.

Why?  Because even if a woman doesn’t REALLY believe the stars have anything to do with her mood, astrology is all about relationships and emotions (and since it’s illogical men tend to laugh).

Even if she thinks the lines on her palms have more to do with her tennis grip than her life, she’ll still enjoy talking about the future and all THOSE emotions and possibilities.

In short, that sort of inner esoteric material is fun to think about.  And even though it’s improbable, a lot of women will have a seed of hope that there’s truth in the ancient traditions – because that’s a pretty damn romantic idea.

Don’t Talk About the Star Trek Stuff

On the other hand, talking about aliens and political conspiracies will mostly bore her, although it fulfills the same deep desires – just for men.

Why?  Conspiracies are all about the outer world and logic – while the inner one is what most women are more interested in.

So, great, you’ve got a number of interesting topics there.  Take the zodiac.

You don’t want to open with “What’s your sign, baby?”  You might as well grow a porn moustache and rename yourself Dork Diggler.

The Zodiac Doesn’t Have To Be A 70’s Opener

But after you’ve got a little conversation going and she’s having fun with you, it can be a playful tangent.  Maybe you’ve just had a particularly good laugh, your eyes are smiling and your hands holding, and you ask “What’s your birthday?”

If she misunderstands and thinks you’re asking her age, great – you’ll probably get her age, and you can tease her about how dense she is, to not get what you’re saying.

But when she gives you her birth date, you can answer with a thoughtful “Ah…” or “That explains it.” or “Uh-oh, watch out.  I’m trouble baby.”

In any topic, cliff-hanging remarks like that will almost ALWAYS prompt a response – and you can dance around it for awhile, playfully teasing.

But in this case, since the topic is one she is probably at least a little interested in, you can have all sorts of conversations branch off from it.

You Don’t Have To Believe – But At Least Know Something About It

Now understand, you’re going to have to do a little homework here.  Not much  - but enough that you know what she’s talking about if you wind up with a girl who’s REALLY into this (which will happen sooner than you think).

For instance, say you lead with “I’m trouble baby.”  When you eventually get around to answering why (and remember again, take your time, build suspense) you don’t want to be exposed for a fraud.

Say she asks you your birthday, you tell her, and she says “No, that doesn’t sound right.  That doesn’t make any sense.  Unless your ascendant is wood or your moon fire.  Is it?”

You don’t want to answer “Uh… raaaaaaaeeeeyt.”  You want to know at least enough to say “You know, I never found out my time of birth, so I don’t know.  In fact, I don’t know much about all that – why don’t you explain it?”

PLAY With Her

NOW you can have a lot of fun.  If you meet this sort of girl and she’s going on, you can just riff off that.  Playfully make fun of her.  “So you honestly think that because the moon was 54 degrees off the horizon instead of 56, that I was a bedwetter until I was 5?  Oh, that damn moon!  I blame Armstrong’s big step, that musta done it.”

You don’t have to believe this stuff – in fact, it can work great if you don’t.  But you should know enough that you can converse about it, because it’s almost always an interesting conversation for the lady.

Also, because it’s all about relationships, the zodiac lends itself well to sexual innuendo.  Or it sometimes directly talks about it.

“Oh, you’re a scorpio?  That must be it then.”

“What?”

“That’s where all your sexual energy is coming from.  Scorpios are insatiable.  I once dated a scorpio who was an animal in the bed.  The kinkiest girl I’ve ever known.  Are you anything like that?”

See how useful this can be?

The Power Of The Palm

However, my favorite still is and will always be the palm-reading.  You get all the same conversations as the zodiac, plus sustained positive physical contact.  Not to mention you can CHALLENGE her to fulfill what you see in her hand.

Let me give an example of how I’ve used this, so you can see what I’m talking about.

Into Derek’s Life

I went to a diner with a lady one late night, and we were having an interesting conversation.  She started talking about one of her friends and some of that girl’s foibles.  I responded:

“Yeah, it’s interesting the way that happens.  Just last week I was reading my female friend’s palm and…”

“You can read palms?”

“Yes.”  (Remember the showcase skill – don’t boast, let it naturally come up.)

“Do me!”

“Well, I don’t know.  I don’t do just anyone.  I’ll need to get used to your energy and see if it’ll work.”

At that point I took her hand in mine and we continued talking for 10 minutes or so as I gently kneaded and massaged her hand.  She was getting turned on just from that (remember the oxytocin response).  Finally, I decided to give her a reading.

“Let’s see…oh wow.  This is interesting.”

“What is it?”

“This says you have a very open, experimental personality.  You aren’t scared of trying new or exciting things; in fact, you seek them out.  Is that true?”

“Yes!”  Now I’ve given her a picture of herself she’ll try to live up to, and a positive view of this way of acting.  Much more likely she’ll be open later after I’ve said this.

Soon our waitress – a cutie herself – got curious and came over to see what we were doing.  When she found out I was reading my date’s palm, the waitress said “Do me!”

I took her hand and immediately let go of it and drew back in shock.  “My god!”

“What?”  Both girls asked this simultaneously, actually.

“You don’t want to know.”

“C’mon, tell me.”

“Nope.  There are some things it’s better not to know.”

The waitress wound up being even more intrigued by the palm-reading than my date – to the point where she was becoming annoying and getting in the way.  So I just reset the date in a new location – my apartment, as it happens.

All Sorts Of Positives, No Negatives… and No Sweat

The waitress still digs me though, my date is impressed with the fact that I can be that attractive (not to mention she’s oxytocin ODing), and I’ve given her a playful fun and SEXY template to live up to.

Oh, and reading palms?  I have no idea how.  I made it all up.

Ok, not everything – I know a few basics – but you don’t need to be an expert.  Learn a few lines here and there, and you can easily ad-lib the rest.  Just make it interesting and playful (and keep that contact time high), and you’ll do incredibly well with this one simple skill.

Derek Vitalio

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Have you ever heard that old familiar lament:

"Nice Guys Finish Last, Jerks Get Laid?"

At first glance, it would seem that is true.

There are a lot of Jerks out there who are able to attract tons and tons of women.

And there are a lot of Nice Guys who struggle with getting girls, and feel frustrated.

After all, who wants to have to be a jerk in order to get women?

Here's the thing...

YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE A JERK TO GET WOMEN!

You just have to change a few things you tend to be "nice" about.

For instance:

1. Social Restrictions

We tend to believe that there are "acceptable" and "unacceptable" things to do around women.

And while this is true to some extent, Nice Guys are often wrong about the limits of what is acceptable.

Like being sexual around women. Many Nice Guys believe this is "inappropriate behavior."

But that's wrong!

Being sexual around a woman is a very powerful way of communicating your interest in her.

Little things like flirting and joking about sex can go a long way into making you a potential lover instead of just a potential "friend."

2. Inability To Act

Too often, "Nice Guys" wait around for the girl to make the first move to initiate romance.

This is a DEADLY mistake!

Women take their cues from the men they're with. If you want to escalate into a physical relationship, you have to be the one to make the first move.

This can be scary. It's possible to get rejected.

But if you don't do it, you won't succeed!

Actions speak louder than words, and if you allow yourself to act and go in for a kiss, or not be afraid to touch her, then you communicate all the right things...

Things like aggressiveness, confidence, and sexuality -- all things women find irresistibly attractive!

3. Diarrhea Of The Mouth

Way too many Nice Guys like to talk about boring stuff.

They do nothing to captivate the girl. Their stories don't inspire romance or attraction.

In short: Nice Guys are neutered!

The real trick with women is to be playful! Have fun with them!

Crack jokes.

Tease them.

Have a good time.

Show her a little bit of attention instead of focusing on yourself -- but don't take yourself for granted either!

If you just talk, and talk, and talk without knowing what you're saying, you're going to bore the girl you're with.

And girls who are bored with you will not be attracted to you.

If you look at the three points above, you can see that the Jerks who get all the women do these things.

BUT, Nice guys can do them too, and not have to act like a complete horses ass to do them!

You can still be the Nice Guy you've always been, but just change three simple tactics and see a drastic improvement in your success with women.

Here's a recent success story I got from a Nice Guy who followed my advice...

NICE GUY SUCCESS STORY:

Dude, your stuff works!

I went out last night and took the lead much more. Also, thinking of what you told me, I pressed forward on every sexual innuendo opening that popped up. It is amazing how quickly girls opened up.

I ended up talking to this guy and the two girls with him about hotel porn and the fact that everybody, including women watches it (something I'd never thought I'd talk to women about before).

We talked about Michael Ninn and porn with real storylines and started dreaming up porn careers for ourselves.

Anyway, long story short, when they closed the club we ended up at his place nearby; nice and big with a Japanese garden. We joked around and the girls did stupid dances to the indian electronica that was playing and eventually at like four am we paired off.

I just got back!

That is the quickest result I have had yet and it was fun to be so open. Thanks!

R. (recovering Nice Guy)

If you want to have really effective successes and turn your luck around, you really need to read my book The Art Of Approaching.

This information is truly LETHAL stuff.

The Nice Guy above emailed me a few times about his problems, and I gave him the EXACT SAME information I just gave you.

And look what it got him!

Listen to Uncle Joseph, I don't steer you wrong!

If you don't start applying the strategies in my book, you'll have to be happy with what you're getting right now.

But if you can imagine going out to meet women armed with the "secret weapons" I give you that can help boost your confidence and get beautiful girl after beautiful girl to date you...

Well, I'm sure you're starting to realize the possibilities. =)

To download your book right now, click on the link below:

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Start enjoying real success with women right now.

Good luck!

Joseph Matthews

Question From A Reader:

Hi Joseph,

My name is Dave, I live in Australia. This is about your E-Mail about the beaten man. I don't consider myself a beaten man but some of us out here in the real world have an aversion to pain, you know the "getting your guts kicked in" type of pain?

I have tried some of your techniques and still had no success, just more kicks in the guts for my troubles, and I don't know about you but I have a pain thresh-hold and have reached it, getting rejected or laughed at by women is painful no matter what you tell yourself when you get to your pain limit. What are you supposed to do when this happens? You can say what you like about calling it a setback but when you get to the stage that you start avoiding women because you don't want to be laughed at or rejected it is not a setback, it is a confidence killer.

No amount of self reinforcement helps when you get to this point, one more rejection or one more woman laughing at you is too much to take. The only even partial success I have had was with a married woman and I didn't know she was married until near the end of our chat, this made things worse not better, unlike most men you target with your advice, I have morals.

I won't try to chat up a married woman, if she wants to start a relationship with me she has to end her existing relationship beforehand, this woman was looking for that little bit extra on the side and seemed quite upset when I told her "Thanks But No-Thanks." My theory is that if she would cheat on her husband then she would cheat on me, even if she got divorced to be with me, what do you think?. Solve this in the real world not in fantasy land.

Dave

My Response:

First off, Dave, all my advice is based on the "real world." Judging from your writing, it's YOU who lives in a fantasy land.

You live in a fantasy land where no girls like you, where they will ALL reject you and laugh at you. This is a magical place where you can't get a date and are destined to die alone, and anyone who tells you otherwise is a LIAR.

It's a mystical, magical world you've created in your head because you want to feel sorry for yourself and don't want to do the hard work (yes, that's right, HARD WORK) to get what you want. You'd rather just be lazy and feel sorry for yourself.

This is something all "beaten men" have in common. They're called "beaten" for a reason. They've given up hope. They look at their lives as a lost cause, and resign themselves to "cursing the world" and the all women as hating them so they can feel justified in their hopeless beliefs.

You believe this, and yet you have gone to great lengths to contradict yourself in your own email.

You claim that no women like you and they all laugh at you and reject you. Yet, there's this woman, who happens to be married, who expressed ATTRACTION for you!

Now, obviously you have a standard that you abide by where you don't go after women who are married, which is fine. I have the same standard, but I can't expect everyone to live by it. Each man must have his own rules that he feels comfortable with.

But instead of looking at this as a positive thing -- that being a woman was attracted to you and liked you and actually WANTED to be with you -- you saw it as a negative -- She's married, so I'm just wasting my time!

Shame, shame, shame on you.

No one knows better than me how hard it can be when you're trying to go from "beaten man" to "best man." I worked very hard at this myself when the first inklings of "Art Of Approaching" were being developed from me going out 5 nights a week to try and break this fear of meeting women that I had.

I was so obsessed with getting good at meeting women, I would show up for my job the next day half-asleep because I was out late the night before. I almost got fired numerous times! I was getting physically ill from the lack of sleep, and when I first started, I was getting rejected left and right.

But I kept at it, figured a few things out, and before long, it became easy! And I suddenly didn't have to go out 5 nights a week, I could go out just when I wanted and have fun!

If I had believed as you do, this story would not have a happy ending, and I probably wouldn't even be responding to your email, because I'd just be some other guy who couldn't talk to women.

So coming from someone who's overcome this obstacle in the REAL WORLD, and not your depressing, negative fantasy land of evil women who hate you, listen to me when I say this...

IF YOU FOCUS ON THE NEGATIVES, YOUR VIEWS WILL BE NEGATIVE. IF YOU FOCUS ON THE POSITIVES, YOUR VIEWS WILL BE POSITIVE.

This is something ALL men who are suffering from "beaten man" syndrome should take to heard. You should memorize those two sentences and make them your mantra.

Your beliefs shape how you see the world. And how you see the world shapes your beliefs. If you walk up to a woman, and say "Hi, let me buy you a drink." And she responds: "Um, you should leave now," and then turns her back to you (which actually did happen to me once when I first started out, but that's another newsletter, lol), you have two ways of viewing that interaction.

The first way is "Oh God! I'm ugly and no girls like me! That rejection hurt so bad! Everyone saw that! I'm a loser! I can't talk to any other girl in this place now! Waaaaaaaaaaah!"

The other way is "Wow, that didn't work out so well. Why is that? Maybe every guy in this place has used that same line on her and she's sick of it? I wonder what would happen if I used a different line?"

Do you see the difference?

In one example, I automatically reverted to despair, pain, rejection, negativity. I heaped blame on myself for failing.

In the other example, I was still hurt, but I looked at the situation as a learning experience where I figured out what I might have done wrong and came up with a solution.

There is a WORLD of difference between these two points of view.

You, dear Dave, and every beaten man like you, has trained himself to look at things in terms of your own failures. You selfishly indulge in your own feelings of loss and inadequacy. This is what continues to beat you down.

The guys who are successful with women learn from these experiences. They start to spot specific traits in women that they know they're good at attracting. They figure out what works and what doesn't, and only do the stuff that works. They enjoy the success of their hard work, and they revel in the good feelings they have while dismissing the bad ones.

Which sounds more appealing to you?

Getting rejected by women can be a confidence killer and can be painful IF YOU LET IT. You have to learn to adapt and do what works instead of focusing on your pain.

You say you've done "some of my techniques" to no success. Have you bothered to buy my book? Have you read it cover to cover? Did you do the Bootcamp, which is specifically DESIGNED to help you improve WITHOUT all the pain of rejection? Have you done the confidence building exercises I give you? Have you learned to read a woman's body language to recognize who's open to being approached so you can minimize your "crash and burn?"

Have you bothered to do ANY of this work?

I'm willing to bet you haven't.

Because if you had, your email would have been a success story rather than a whine-fest.

It always amazes me when I see guys who say "There was this one girl who was really into me, but X was wrong with her, so I didn't go forward, and no other women like me."

Let me tell you, if one woman likes you, there are others out there who do as well. You just have to find them, and do the work it takes to be prepared for meeting them.

Now, I know this email sounds harsh, but I'm trying to get through to you and every other guy out there like you what it is you're doing wrong that you need to fix, and sometimes that requires tough love.

But I'm not just going to spew tough love. I'm going to actually give you some tools to help you overcome this rough patch in your road to success with women (note that I haven't given up on you, though you may have!).

For weeks now, I have been furiously working on not just one, or two, but SIX new ebooks designed to help guys like you learn what they need to radically change your views on how to meet women.

This is some awesome stuff. I've ravaged my own personal journals and notes to give you the best information I have to help you out.

I call it my "Deluxe Meet Women Package."

You can learn more about the DMWP by clicking the link below:

Click Here To Check out The Deluxe Meet Women Package Right Now!

If you're stuck, and you need that extra push to help you out and go from "beaten man" to "ladies man," then this special Package is for you.

And for those of you who just want to get the basic, bare-bone fundamentals of what it takes to meet massive amounts of women with no fear of rejection, then you owe it to yourself to check out my original ebook, The Art Of Approaching, here:

Click Here To Start Meeting Beautiful Women Right Now!

So here's your chance to leave your fantasy land of rejection and despair, and enter the real world of real possibilities.

Wishing you success with women,

Joseph Matthews

I want to ask you a question...

It's kind of personal, so I hope you don't mind.

And answer it honestly. After all, it's just me here. And I promise not to tell the answer to anyone.

So here it is:

Are you a virgin? And if not, then at what age did you lose your virginity?

C'mon now, don't be shy.

It's just us guys talking.

I'll share something with you, and it's something you might not even know...

Most of the guys out there who are "naturals" with the ladies are guys who lost their virginity at a very early age!

And most of the guys out there who aren't very good with women are the ones who lost their virginity late in life, or are still virgins!

Seriously.

Almost every major ladies man I know is a guy who lost his virginity between the ages of 13-15. Some of them were even younger than that!

So does this mean that if you lost your virgin cherry to some sweet girl after the age of 15 you're destined to struggle with women for the rest of your life?

Well, not necessarily.

But it might!

I'll tell you why...

People tend to create certain beliefs about the way things are based on their own personal experiences.

So if you're a guy who loses his virginity at a young age, this forms your beliefs about women and sex very early on.

It becomes something natural.

You've done it once while young, so it becomes something easy to do.

You formulate the belief that having sex with women is nothing really special, it's just something that you do.

Girls lose their mystique, and you're able to see them for who they really are (as people, not as objects to be worshipped and adored) and you stop idealizing the idea of sex.

So as you get older, you train yourself to just GO FOR IT.

BUT...

Let's say you're not one of these guys, and you don't lose your virginity at an early age. Let's say it doesn't happen until you're in your 20s, or 30s. What happens when this is the case?

Answer: YOU FORM WRONG BELIEFS ABOUT WOMEN AND SEX.

You start seeing sex as a romanticized act. It's something "special" and "unique." Losing your virginity is supposed to be a big moment in your life.

But here's the God's honest truth...

SEX IS A SWEATY, CLUMSY ACT THAT'S ABOUT AS SPECIAL AS WORKING OUT AT THE GYM FOR AN HOUR.

Let's talk about this for a moment.

Do you spend your life dreaming of the day you can finally go to the gym and work out?

Do you believe that weight lifting machines are sacred, beautiful things which should be worshipped and adored, and if they like you, THEN you'll be allowed to work out on them?

Do you go and brag to all your friends about how great your work-out was, and how you can't wait to do it again?

I'm sure you don't.

I'm sure when you want to go work out, you set aside some time, go to the gym, power through the work-out, then shower and go home and get on with your life.

Why is this?

Because you have a certain belief about going to the gym.

It's something that you can do if you have the willpower to go do it. All you need to do is open up a membership and start pumping iron, right?

Now let me ask you this:

How is succeeding with women any different?

See, when you are given the time to build up certain ideas of how things should be -- losing your virginity should be special, so you have to wait for the right girl to come along -- no sex before marriage -- women are special flowers who should be worshipped -- and any other "happily ever after" cliche you can think of, what you're really doing is SABOTAGING yourself and your success with women.

The guys who lost their virginity at a young age learned early: Sex is not special. Without love, it doesn't mean anything.

It's this belief and experience that frees these men from the fear, anxiety, and bad beliefs that hold back those of us who don't have success with women until we're older.

Because while they see sex for what it really is, there are those of us who still believe in waiting for the "perfect" woman.

Well guess what. No woman is perfect. Virginity should not be worshipped, and losing it should not be a sacred thing.

Your mind needs to be in the right place.

You MUST NOT be focused on the act of sex. Instead, your focus should be on relating to women as human beings.

This is the KEY to being successful in love.

When you remove the element of "Sacred Sex" as I call it, and stop placing so much darn importance on it, you free yourself up to really relate to women in a way that allows you to show them who you really are and what about you is attractive.

That's the only real trick.

That's what the guys who lose their virginity early are able to figure out.

Once you accept this as fact, go to this website:

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Then get my book, The Art Of Approaching. It will show you how to use this mentality to your advantage and really start enjoying REAL success with the ladies.

Wishing you success,

Joseph Matthews